[custom_adv] Most funeral services are solemn, but there are exceptions when the person requested a more festive celebration of his or her passing. Regardless of the mood, you still need to be respectful. [custom_adv] After all, losing a loved one is sad because it creates a void in the lives of family and close friends. [custom_adv] If you have children, you need to determine whether or not they are old enough to understand what is going on. [custom_adv] Don't take your children to the funeral of an unrelated person unless you have a chance to tell them what to expect and know that they will behave. [custom_adv] Arrive early. You should always arrive at the church or funeral home at least 15 to 20 minutes before the service is scheduled to begin. If you talk, speak softly. [custom_adv] Take your seat and quietly await the arrival of the family of the deceased.Find a place to sit. The first few rows are generally reserved for the family and close friends of the deceased. [custom_adv] If the decedent is presented and the casket is open you may take this time to take a last look at him or her. If you arrive late, enter quietly, taking your place on the back row. [custom_adv] Draw as little attention to yourself as possible, making every effort not to disrupt the service.Participate when asked. The funeral will most likely be conducted by a clergy member or designated speaker. You should feel free to join in during the ceremony. [custom_adv] This would include standing during prayers and singing during any congregational or group singing. Even if you are not religious, it is customary to stand or bow during the prayer time as a show of recognition for the tradition. [custom_adv] Follow the order of dismissal. During most funeral processions the family will follow the casket out of the church or funeral home. Quite often the attendees are then dismissed using an orderly row by row method. Leave the building promptly, following the prescribed order and make sure not to hold up the flow of the dismissal.